8 Tips For Better Managing A Teenager
A parent is a driving school instructor who transmits education, values and, sometimes, has to crush the brake pedal to put a "stop". You must therefore know how to hold on even if your teenager makes you feel guilty with examples of more lax parents. He will never tell you, but he will find that he feels safer with you than with "less strict" parents.
It's about asking all family members " who's doing what this week ? ", To show that a life in society is only viable if everyone participates in household chores, including the most thankless. The house is not a lawless zone, just like the school. The teenager himself can’t imagine a classroom where students would put their feet on the table and so on ...
4. Make the parents 'strike'
As with the workers, don't hesitate to go on strike if you are too fed up. For a week or more, imitate your teenager by following your whims and nothing else. However, remain vigilant about hygiene and safety. After a few days, you will hear your teenager complaining: there is no more clean laundry, the frozen foods are boring, there are no more cutlery. Then, at the appropriate time, have a family reunion and ask him if he prefers to continue this way or if he is willing to collaborate on household chores.
Once you reach adolescence, your child will no longer obey, but will agree to do or not to do. We will therefore have to negotiate, while remaining straight in our boots on the ontological needs of your child such as sleep, hygiene and safety. For example, delaying bedtime the night before on non-school days, providing play time if the bedroom is tidy or he or she has been involved with chores around the house.
6. Make a contract
We must put this message in his head " we have nothing for nothing ". So, sign a contract with your teenager, in which everyone writes down their expectations. He will certainly want a more extended phone plan, playing time or going out with his friends, you on your side will ask for respected schedules, an educational investment that takes precedence over leisure or, quite simply, respect in all circumstances.
7. Shared wrongs
What if the parents, in spite of themselves, had not succeeded in fostering the emergence of uncomfortable behavior ? Some parents have become too accustomed to doing everything for their children, thinking that school is already tiring them a lot and think of the house as a haven of peace in which their cherubs are the guests. Whereas it is precisely up to parents to make teens understand that everything is not theirs. You have to react with an iron fist in a velvet glove.
8. Boys, girls: same problem?
This age is surely the moment when the differences between the genders are felt the most. Girls would be more asked to help and would be less forgiven when their room is poorly organized. The boys do not put anything in their place and under the pretext that they can help themselves, they do not help with the preparation of the meals. On the other hand, girls this age are much more addicted to social media and boys to video games.
